Month: October 2011

Grief And Remorse

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Last week my otherwise normal life was broken with the news of her death. My Mom broke the sad news between her tears.

I knew that she has a bad tumor which had got her entire system. The vet, Mrs who stays close to my house had told my Mom that there’s little hope of her surviving this quarter. But when I heard this news at office, I just couldn’t think of anything else, but of the time when it was alive and running around.

After this, I also felt remorse of not spending time with her when she was not keeping well. I just ignored her while she lost her shine of her coat. It’s human nature to ignore when someone is not in their prime. I’m guilty and I feel pangs of guilt of not tending her. Only my Mom took all the pain to feed her with tender coconuts and also spending all the money of vitamin.

Now after living with us for over 8 years, Terry departed to another world where I too will join someday. As of now I have to live with this grief.  For solace, I’ll have to look at her pictures, the videos that had captures the best moments she had spend with us. 

Faceless Jokes

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faceless Cartoons

 After a long gap, I revisited Yahoo mail box. This is my first main e-mail client, and I wonder why I deserted it for Gmail. Recently Yahoo had done some changes to the look and feel and introduced some extra widgets to the mailing platform.

 So, here’s two really funny ‘faceless Cartoons’ forwarded by my friend. The mail had many such good ones, I ‘ll reserve it for further posts. – Images source: Bruce Sutherland – July 2009

Enjoy Faceless Cartoons. 

Similarities in People

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Today while flexing myself at the Indira Nagara Park, near CMH road, I chanced to see other people having some similarity with folks I knew in my life.

Some had striking similarities is looks, while few had similar body features. One young fellow who was walking in front of me, had the same look of the popular gay who lived in my neighborhood. Another old man who keeps chatting in queer language with his wife had the lips of Jack Nicholson who acted as Joker in Batman Movie.

Apart from the people from the park, I keep meeting people at the road who had some uncanny resemblance with people from yester years.  Recently I saw my Dad look alike on the road. It’s strange that I still have strong image of Dad in me, even-thought he passed some 20 years ago.

So, do you find such instances in your daily life? Are you quick to spot some little features in others? Pls shed your thoughts on this in the comment box.

Thank you,

J.C

Gift of Emotional Labor

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Linchpin

I’m currently reading Seth Godin’s Linchpin. I bought this book with lot of anticipation. Now as I read, each point he explains resonates something novel in me. Often I get carried away by this book and share his concepts with my friends. But before I vocalize on his points to others, I should live the message.

He talks on ‘Emotional Labor’. To quote, When you do emotional labor, you benefit.

The act of giving someone a smile, of connecting to a human, of taking initiative, of being surprising, of being creative, of putting on a show – these are things that we do for free all our lives. (P 82 – Linchpin )

And then we get to work and we expect to merely do what we’re told and get paid for it.

So, what is Seth trying to convey in these pages. He is telling us to bring in human connection in work and not just work along the rules.

So, what values are you bringing to your work?

  • Are you charging your presence with positive light?
  • Are you doing that tad-bit extra emotion to your work?

So in these actions what your benefit. First, you benefit from the making and the giving.  And second , you benefit from the response of those around you.

When you develop the habit of contributing this gift, your coworkers become more open , your boss becomes flexible, and your customers become more loyal.

Texting While Driving

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I don’t have a car, but I had a close call when I was using my mobile phone while riding my two-wheeler.

It happened like this…
 I got a call while driving and used one hand to pull out mobile phone from my jean’s pocket. Just as I took it out of the pocket, I lost control of the phone. My hand juggled with the phone, while with one hand I was navigating the scooter. It was a kind-of dancing on the road effect, and lucky I regained both of it.It was a narrow escape for me, and I vowed never to take any calls while driving or stop the vehicle to see who is calling me.

Did anything similar happened to you? Share your thoughts in the comments box…
( Pic Source: PostSecret)

Social Media Diva

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What did I name her ‘Social Media Diva’.  She is the young, dark in complexion, boarder waist, round eyes, well built, with voluptuous figure and she works as a part time maid at our neighbor’s house.

Well, my crazy plan goes like this…

She is in her productive years, but she just gets meager wages of a maid. I like her to explore other possibilities in life, to work for a higher cause or earn more… What all job can she take or learn?

What if I teach her social media? Will she be able to tweet or post updates on Facebook or even become a social media diva?

Well I wonder if I can do something to elevate the life of ordinary people around, whom I find has immense potential to grow and do something of their own. What about me…can I grow my mediocre life to a great one?

Coming back to this sexy maid…Why does she waste her life doing menial stuff. Why is she wasting her prime time swabbing floor, or cleaning the dirt. What options does she have? What is she capable of …what all things would interest her?

Who will teach her a new skill? Will she be able to open a new life with a new skill set?

 While writing this, It struck to my mind the character played by  Audrey Hepburn in My Fair Lady. Wonder If I’m behaving like the arrogant, irascible, misogynist professor of phonetics who believes that the accent and tone of one’s voice determines a person’s prospects in society.

And in my fancy mind, I think of her wearing skirt or trousers?

Have you felt like this towards anyone whom you’ve remotely met in your life? If yes, we have something in common and we should talk on it. Wouldn’t it be nice to meet someone who shares a similar thoughts, even thought it sounds crazy.

Take Away from Steve Jobs

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I couldn’t believe the news of Steve Job’s death. Even though he was ailing, it seemed he will rise like a Pheonix to cheer Apple fans with another amazing product.

So, what’s left of this genius. Is it his works, his inspiring speech. Taking cue from the memorable punch lines from Steve Jobs , I look back the potential efforts wasted each day in my life.

Let me take a page from his life, or work and see how well I can emulate this leader in my life…

Few other quotes from Steve Jobs

Future of Social Networking

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Social networking era has just started. Like most of you, I started with Orkut and now I’ve profile in Facebook, Twitter, and the latest in Google+. As we just experience the wonder of networking with distant friends and strangers, I just can’t help the feeling about the future of social networking. In other words how will these platforms emerge or how will it evolve?

So, what are your predictions to the future? How will it transform your life
 Pls share your futuristic thoughts in the comment box.

Based on my hunch, here are my predictions:

  • Social networks will move from PC to mobile devices
  • Socializing will be real ( People will loose inhibition for real meet)
  • Privacy will be a thing of past 
  • More consensual sex  ( End of marriage as see today)
  • Bollywood will reinvent the theme – No freakin love stories ( God know what is comin’)

So, while we’re still chipping our life with in the stone age version of Facebook or Twitter, it’s good to think on how life will change inside out with these social media channels.

Share your input on how you think of the changes or how social networking sites will marry off new changes in our lives.

Blogging Renewal

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From Opus hotel blog:
A very good friend once told me “An abandoned blog is like a frayed carpet in the hotel lobby – it speaks of apathy and neglect and is off-putting when stumbled upon.” It is a great analogy, which crystallizes the importance of staying fresh and current in the fast paced world of on-line management and social media.

On the same lines, I felt the need to renew my abandoned blog. Yes, it struck me while I was boozing at Hard Rock, cafe. It then struck me like a thunderbolt to blog on topics around my life. Just share the daily scenes of my life.

So, on that cue, I’m trying my amateur writing skills to portray ordinary views around my life. At least, I could improve writing skills.

Another thing that surprised me is when I looked at my previous post. I had done it some 5 months back. Hold Ghost! How long  a break? And in just 10 minutes, this is my third blog post.

What other ways can you enliven your blog? Do you have other thoughts, topics to write on your blogs? 

Another Postsecret

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                                                             Pic source: PostSecret

I frequent this site to see the common secrets. There are many and this one caught my eye. With my expenses going off the roof, first week of the month is always a panic attack for me. Can’t get hold of expenses despite living a low life.

Now tell me your PostSecret you’re holding on. Do you get a chance to spill it out to your spouse, friend or to strangers.