Yakshi in You

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Do you know Yahkshi? If you are a Malayalee, from baby boomer gen, then it’s a popular character that adorns horror movies, or seen in the drawings in Malayala Manoroma romantic paperbacks.

Screen grab from Youtube

Today morning, I was struck with the thoughts of different characters in our life, and how life throws some senario where we show our true colors – not knowing that we are bearers of such behavior.

Yakshi Trait in Me and Probably in You

Why do I have to bring Yakhsi to this blog. First of all, what is yakshi ( )?

These are female apparition
who adorns white dress, with a hysteric laughter, who lures men to her snare. She appears to be close, yet she is not near – when you go near them, they mysteriously move away from you.

In a different way, it means, they are non-committed to you physically or mentally.

Here’s my story of Yakshi

Long, long ago, an unexpected financial crisis hit one of my close friend. A finance company he was closed down out of the blue. It turned out to be the case of swindling – the CEO misappropriated with the funds, which lead to the closure.

It’s like all hell broke loose for him. Relatives, acquaintances who invested the money started asking him – poor fella who just started his career got himself in a mess.

I remember the initial days when this news came out. I never bothered to call him nor visited him. Only after couple of days, when the heat died a bit, I surfaced myself to visit and know the whereabouts.

Why did I disappear? I just acted smart or I distanced from the problem he was facing. What a shame. ( Yakshi in me – disappeared into the mist)

Another story – A relative of mine is exhibited all emotions when we are went through medical emergency. Emotions such a feeling of caring, support, etc. At first, I thought that the person is going to be with us, at least mental support. Well, the person was there physically, but mentally distant from the problem. Empathy is missing. ( Yakshi in You – mentally not involved, distant or acts like a third-party)

Yakshi – Do you take such a stand

I don’t know if the metaphor is suitable, but it’s all that I could related to people who are like Yakshi’s. When we approach them with a need, they just move away, away into distant smoky screen place, till we know they are not going to be there.

One incident in my life showed how I showed a non-committal trait, and other incident showed how people around me were afraid to stand by. In both the cases, there was no financial commitment, but a mental support.

This is also the case when we are badly in need of money and we ask for loan. That’s when we can show the commitment from people. There are many who can’t fulfill the need, but there are many who has money, but distances from the needy person. Probably, it could be right step, as there’s no guaranteed when the money will be repaid

What if you know that there is a 50 50 chance of not getting the money soon, but you can really happy them them? Will you come with an excuse or will you take the risk? Suppose you have buffer cash, will you still go with the excuse of not helping?