How we overlook the beauty of the moment, only to reside in the past or in the unknown future. Why are most people ( me) not really anchored on the present?
This simple and heartfelt story sums it well in a page.
Let this be a reminder.
Category: motivation
When Will India Grow Up?
Absolutely, surgical and precise way in which this man has spoken about Indian society and how far we need to grow up.
These days, many among us talk in such a way that we are in par with Western societies. They do by telling few parameters about our growth and tell how we are comparable. But all these are just masks the damning realities of our lives, our attitudes. It’s no doubt that we need to grow more on civic sense, privacy, freedom of speech, skill etc. All these requires a shift in our mindset.
One aspect in this is about privacy and how we have little or no regard for someone’s privacy. One thing about privacy and individual excess is the way revenge porn is proliferating around us. All it needs is to have a look at one of the porn sites to sites to see hundreds of amateur, homemade private videos that has leaked to public domain. How can someone just leak private moments which bares it all for the world to see. They do it because they know nothing is going to happen to them. The victims are mostly women and one can just imagine how her life would be after these videos or pictures are leaked. There’s so much stress, unimaginable mental shame, victimization and self blame. And, this is leading many women to take extreme steps like taking their life or living in isolation, etc. Also, what all things parents or immediate family go through when their daughter becomes the victim of such acts!
Why do people upload private videos without any qualms?
I feel that such videos are made public by people for these three reasons. Firstly, they would have something to score with the person shown in the video. Mostly directed at the lady.
Secondly, the perpetrator of such uploads are people who are sure they are safe under the screen of anonymity. True to some extend. However, it’s not easy to find out who had leaked the video online. We have cyber cells who track cyber-crimes, threat, etc. One more thing is that these videos may be uploaded as a way to blackmail the victims. Before they upload, they might ask them to some favors or cash. And when it’s not happening, the video goes live on Whatsapp or other sites.
Finally, such clips are made online by strangers who don’t know the people but they do without thinking of the backlash these people might face.
I had earlier written a post about revenge porn and how other countries has law against them.
Fail! Fail Often!

Yesterday I was watching the commencement speech made by Charlie Day at this Alma Mater. Of the many things he said, few points stood out for me. Like many celebrities who have achieved success, fame in their life, he too was narrating his life story. The story of many failures, stumbling blocks, choices, and how how he took hims real calling – the voice in his head. Also, how his calling proved to be the best choice in his life.
One epiphany moment after listening to this speech is this question – are our colleges providing a commencement speech on their last day in college? Probably, the big league colleges like IIT’s or Symbiosis or Christ University, etc are bringing speakers to share generic advice to final year stuents.
My guess is that, most second-tier colleges like the ones in Trivandrum and rest of Kerala won’t be bothering with such an effort. Is it true? I need to find out? If they don’t have a speech ceremony, then don’t you think it’s an opportunity lost?
I’m sure if there’s a desire or steadfast intent, then the management or the students union can get hold of some alumni-student to share their success story.
If anyone who’s reading this post is associated with any college as a parent, student, teacher, management or college unions, then you can take it forward to make the last day a memorable one. Also, you can record the talk and if you think it’s useful for others and for the institution, then it could be share on YouTube. What do you say?
Let’s give people to share their story!
Where Do You Want to Visit?

This picture appeared on the screen – just like many of the scenic pictures which appears on Windows. However, this picture got stuck on my mind as a distant reality of trip which I will plan soon.
Having to think of such audacious travel goals are good but what does it take to really make it a reality? How will I grow from where I’m to what I wish to achieve and build?
There are many unanswered and uncomfortable questions in front of me. I hope to build it, one step at a time.
Ideas around Getting Rich
Few lines said, phrases that struck me from the podcast https://copyblogger.com/ramit-sethi/
Is that really where you want to spend your time? I’m not so sure.
( Where to focus your time?)

Focus on those $30,000 questions, it is so much more powerful than getting mired in the weeds, mired in the details of these $3 questions.
( Most often we spend our time dealing with little savings that we miss the big question)
And if the answer is the few, like a few pennies here and there, maybe it’s not worth spending time on.
Incremental growth ( Which area do you want to grow? Progress, step-by-step, drip-by-drip as said by Seth Godin)
Mental mastery
There’s finding a dream job and then mental mastery. So I love that stuff, but I would just caution people, don’t try to do it too quickly. We made that mistake and was crippling, so focus on the things that are working and try to do a little bit more of those.
We’ve really dialed down on is this minimum viable audience
Copywriting called Call to Action.
Finding a profitable idea, testing it, doing it rapidly.
Starting a business from behind their computer. NO, get face-to-face learning experience.
People are lonely behind the screen
What would you do if you could quadruple your spending?”
Her Trivandrum Post Share

Another quote downloaded from the Fb group – Her Trivandrum. These posts are shared here so that it’s easy to revisit and rethink of these lines at another time. I hope you will find it useful too.
The essence of the lines are about judging people from the physical appearance or forming a opinion after a brief interaction. Though I have made repeated formed wrong judgement, I still can’t help the basic instinct of judging people.
Why Do We Judge even though we know it’s not always correct?
Why do we still look to make the first impression?
How can we become non-judgmental?
Thoughtful Lines to Live By

Just sharing an image ( motivational or guiding thoughtful posts) on how to lead a purposeful and higher life. This post appeared on a Facebook Group called Her Trivandrum and I thought I post it here for more visibility.
Randi Zuckerberg’s Focus Points #3
This chirpy and vibrant lady has a mantra in life – focus on three things.
There are many a lessons to be learned from this exuberant lady. To add on, here’s a list of pointers from an article in https://www.tallahassee.com/
Randi Zuckerberg shares 10 trends in tech and entrepreneurship:
Trend 1: age of the “entre-employee.”
Trend 2: Think like a media company.
Trend 3: Reinventing retail.
Trend 4: Start ’em early.
Trend 5: The “maker movement.”
Trend 6: Virtual reality.
Trend 7: Monitoring and life tracking.
Trend 8: The new frontier — education and health care
Trend 9: Gamification for motivation.
Trend 10: Unplug to refresh.
Takeaway from Dwayne “The Rock”
I’m not a big fan of these WWE shows. But, It it appears while browsing the channels, then I stay for few minutes. One of the punch line the Rock says …. If you smell what The Rock is cooking.
Coming to the Rock’s takeaway…..he shares his story about how he build himself from scratch, after going through the lows.
Few other things…
Early rising – which I have started
Hold on
Remind myself of the low side
You got to be tired of not being #1. You gotta be. You got to be angry
Commit something to the goal.
Remember where you come from . Keep it on your front, side-wards…
People writing you off… it should drive you
You gotta be the hardest worker in the room
Don’t .Fuck the opportunity up
Visualization Stamping the Right Impression
Inspiration can come from any form – sometimes it’s a person or a video or a book or an article or a fleeting thought.
This week, I’have repeatedly played Amy TV channel on YouTube. Few things I like are the these.
Time ( Set time for an Activity). The timer in the shape of a cube appears a simple and useful device to track time. And it’s definitely on my wish list now.
Next, is visualization. I have already experienced it mulitiple times – having a strong imprint of the goal on my mind and working towards it.
What’s my next on my Goal
There are many things on my mind – cleaning all the debts, carry some real money, buy a car, maintain a good acquarium in my mom’s place, a garden, a gardener, etc.
