Arguing With No Reward

why we argue without any change!

We argue with our friends, our parents, our spouse, with politicians, Whatsapp group members, virtual strangers….all for the sake of stating our facts as the right source.

After all these bitter arguments by expressing our point of view, is there any winner? Is there any change of heart? Do you manage to convince other person that your point is right?

I bet all debates end in stalemate. No one is the winner and all it leaves is a bad taste, lots of negativity and a dud feeling that comes from a hapless feeling of not able to change other person’s point of view.

Still why do we argue? Why can’t we accept other person’s opinion and move on? Why waste the time when we very well know that other person is not going to change the point of view?

I guess there are lot of articles written about it. I will share few for your reference.

Pork Vindaloo Trivandrum Style

Pork Vindaloo and Rice

Pork Vindaloo Fan Club!

I’m not a avid pork eater. Yet, I like enjoy pork in gravy and dry form. At our place, this dish is made when we have a get-together and at that time, it’s mostly pork vindaloo. The taste for pork dishes started late in my life – after I got married. Till then my Mom had a bad idea about having pork. She used to say about the brain fever disease people have got after eating pork. Also, I never enjoyed eating her pork.

How many of you like Pork?
What about Pork Sausage or ham?
Have you had pork vindaloo ( not the Goan or Anglo Indian preparation) from Trivandrum?
What’s your fav dish in pork – Is it vindaloo or pepper roast or something else?

How Many Blog Posts Before We Hit Steady Traffic?

Blogging is super competitive field. Everyday scores of posts on every conceivable topics are written by the best. This means, my post and many like this will be somewhere languishing in the big dark pit of the web – unseen, unread.

How to Get People to Read Your blog?

Answer is simple – Write things what your readers would like to read. Write well – above the level you see here. Write with a purpose or a goal in mind.

How many Blogs Posts in a Day?

I guess it’s not the quantity that really matter. It’s the value you put in the blog. After writing the post, pause and see if the matter is worth a read. Think from the point of view of the visitor – this applies to B2B or B2B or even a personal blog like this.

How Many Blogs I plan to Post in a Month?

I think, I should be posting at least 50 blog posts. This will included images, videos from Youtube or quotes.

Debug Life in 2020

I don’t know how I have screwed things up? Nothing much is working for me – however, I often wake-up with fresh hope and plan. This is the good part, but the sad part is that things are not moving. Sometimes I feel struck in the same position.

How to Keep Moving or progressing?

Start a project with a goal in Mind
– I have often come across this tip in Seth Godin’s blog. Often I have started my day with a plan in a diary. But why am I not consistently falling in these goals?

Track the Daily and Weekly Progress
Only thing that I have tracked in black and white is my walking routine. I have a seperate book for that part of life and for which I am happy. Now, I got to pen the rest of the activities in a book or journal so that I know where I am going in my task.

What are your goals for 2020?


Better Health
Loose weight
Earn More – Build savings
Buy a home, Car
Have more friends to call
Become socially popular
Share thoughts
Build Assets
Buy gold
Read more
Watch more movies
Love more ( Bring testosterone levels up)

Reboot Life and Blog

New year, 2020. Another calendar filled with a new list of goals, failed plans and fresh plans.

Why Did I Start a Fresh Blog?

B’cos my earlier blogger blog got screwed by my own antics. It was all going well, when I decided to rename the blog. And that stupidity costed all my ranking, my visitors which was around 200 per day. Damn!

Now, I have to do all the stuff from scratch! What an effort and time!

Lessons learned?

Don’t rename on an experimental basis. If it’s an old domain, then stick to it. Or, you should be some wizard or a net nerd who can reroute the traffic to the new domain without much loss.

Have you made such mistakes?
Is there a agency or service to clarify or get guidance on migration?

Another Epiphany

Through the rabbit hole…

What do you see!

— Oscar Wilde.

Here’s the first blog on my latest blog which goes by the name – Epiphany of Things. Why this epiphany?

I have got a liking for this word, when I first saw in a marketing blog – it’s was CK’s Marketing Epiphany. From that time, I stumbled upon this word many times. That doesn’t answer the question – why did I choose this word?

Is it more familiarity or the fact I was looking for something that might sound cool?

Fact is that I’m bad at naming blogs, or a website or a business. I use whatever is simple, with minimum words. That’s probably one reason I have used Pebbles Terrarium or Alpha Bottle cutting or Ace Bread Making or Campus Web Career. All these business I have ventured are just plane Jane words.

Back to the topic of Naming.

I had few other thought when I wanted to use in this blog – ideas, Hive, Meetups, Story, Serendipity, Passion, etc. Using these words in a blog generator yielded no result. Btw, I want to start a name generator site, just for Indian users.

Okay. The big idea to use this world for my blog is that I couldn’t find anything better and I’m not good with this job. So, let it be!

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus you own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

Blogs with Revisiting Week #1

It’s a rough note post intended to save these links. I know a better idea to save links is by putting in the fav basket. Even better idea is to use Evernote. I have tried once, but I haven’t got the hang of it. will try to make Evernote my place to save the link for future visits.

https://everyonehatesmarketers.com

https://everyonehatesmarketers.com/start-new-career-4-original-ways/

https://www.clicknewz.com/15631/6-types-of-content-to-boost-your-social-media-engagement/

https://www.clicknewz.com/15746/failure-to-launch/

https://everyonehatesmarketers.com/start-new-career-4-original-ways/

Gift out of Care

When was the last time you gave something to a stranger? Even if it was a rupee? I like the idea of gifting to strangers and I have done to partial success.

Today, as I was reading a blog by James Ultcher, I suddenly dawned on me to write about this topic – gifting. The reason what struck me was the drizzling rain, and the speedy winds.
I thought of the fisher folks who are out at sea – what kind of weather proof dress are they wearing in the catamaran or motorized launch? Most probably, some kind of rain coat, and shorts or it could be lungi.

What if there was a voluntary donation system so that individuals could easy donate some needy things to people who are at the fringes. 

Let’s me start with the pennies I had shared:
1. Paid Rs 2 to lady who didn’t have change to give to the pre-paid auto counter at Cantonment railway station.

2. Paid Rs 10 to a lady in some railway station, when the train halted there. She was waiting to buy water and she too didn’t have change or was not willing to change the 100 she had.

3. Long ago I bought chocolate and gave to  the sale girl at FoodWorld. She was perplexed and she refused. It was a odd situation. She felt that I was hitting on her or I wanted some favor.

( All these gifts cost very less amount. Anyone could have done it. However, we don’t get the opportunity to be there when a person needs it. So, how do we connect the person who needs and the giver? Can a mobile app be developed for this?

Not a bad idea!

4. Today, when I was passing Kumarapuram junction, rain started falling. The fisher women opened their umbrella to cover themselves partially. Wish someone could gift them a beach umbrella type. I had written this in an earlier post.

Cantonment to Trivandrum Kochu Veli

Bag and Baggage

Cantonment Station 

I wonder why we carry too-much luggage on any trip – be it a holiday or a routine trip to Trivandrum! Is it a our bad planning or has it something to do with our Indian mentality?

When it comes to packing stuffs for a trip, we don’t spare any thought on what to carry, and how much to carry. Due to this, we end up loading our luggage with extras of everything – from underwear to usable stuff.

What takes most of the space in a holiday trip?

Is it the dress and clothes to wear?
Is it the accessories to make up connected? Tablet/laptop/chargers, extra mobile,